Why....GMA has been running a series of "Brides On a Budget" and it is so far from the truth that is makes me sad to think about all the couples that may follow their advice and then call or email me later...after their wedding and say "Nora, you were so right!" I have received calls two weeks, one week even a few days before a wedding from couples desperate for a Day Of Coordinator because all of a sudden all of their family and friends who they have asked "Can you do this for me" has either backed out, forgot, fell off the face of the earth, forgot to send in the proper paperwork to even make their marriage legal....and trust me...this list could go on and on. There is nothing worse than a couple finding out that the 200 guest they have coming just may be blogging or posting on Facebook what a horrible time they had. Seriously think about that for a moment....then read on.
I teach a Bride's Seminar every year ( 2014 Bride's Seminar was just this last February) to help teach and guide Brides/Couples in the right direction so that their wedding goes off with very little stress. They get the chance to listen to a Professional guide them through the process of what can be done and how to save money within their profession. Giving great tips and tricks to cut down on the wedding budget is always priceless to a Bride/Couple and even Parents when it comes to saving money, but GMA is for some reason wanting to cause more stress than what any one person should have to handle on their wedding day.
Here are just a few points I would like to answer to some of their "Brides on a Budget" suggestions:
Officiant: This is one of the most important days of your life, why risk it on asking a family member who has never performed a wedding ceremony..... "To Save Money?"
I really respect that you might feel more comfortable with Uncle Fred being up there with you, but has Uncle Fred have all of his paperwork in order? Does he care if he messes up the biggest day of your life.....sure he does, so why make him live with it the rest of his? This is one area that should never be skimped on....there are legal steps to a marriage. Let Uncle Fred do a reading for you, I'm sure he would feel more comfortable. An Officiant is one of the areas of your entire wedding planning that can be customized to what you want and need.
DJ/Band: sometimes I think if I hear one more time to use your IPOD I'm going to scream! Really....is your IPOD going to Emcee your entire reception? GMA says and I am just repeating what they said...."Can save you $5000.00" who in the hell are you hiring for $5K anyway. A DJ can average anywhere from $450 on up for a Professional DJ/Emcee. Bands can range a little more. This is so important if you are planning your reception (even if it's in your backyard) to have. They bring structure to your event as well as keep the party going. Little Timmy who might be in charge of your IPOD....just might stray away and then what are you left with...asking friends, family and yes YOU going over to keep it going....trust me I have seen it done before.
Photographer/Videographer: Why in the world would they suggest having a high school or college student capture the memories that you will hold so dear....to someone that might dabble in photography and video.... "To Save Money" I call Bullshit on this one ( excuse language, but it fits) ...you may be left without any photos or video of your wedding day. A Professional knows what they need to do to make your day everything you dreamed, seen on Pinterest, bragged about having on your FB and Twitter pages. They can take that simple centerpiece and make it look fabulous in a photo...they are well trained in the shots you need, how you want them and for me...as a Wedding Planner, they know how to stay on that Timeline. How do you tell your guest " Sorry, the photographer took longer than we thought" as your guest are now sitting there bored out of their minds and starving. Please...Please....Please hire someone who knows what they are doing and has done several weddings if not more so that they know the basics of wedding photography.
Invitations: If I have said it once I have said it a million times ( ok maybe not a million) "Please do not invite your guest to your wedding via any email, website or any other way, but through the mail. I had a couple that tried this and it was a disaster for them. Talk to an invitation person directly in your area that can communicate one on one with you. Together you will put together a one of a kind invitation as well as save money and stress in the long run. Trying to do them your self can be a disaster and that's a whole other blog in itself ( stay tune for that one one day).
Wedding Planner/Day of Coordinator: I thought I would let some of my couples tell you.